Rituals, Unlearnings and a Rant ✌🏼

Here's how I'm feeling on book launch week!

Substack for me is like a diary made public. I want to share some honest emotions of how I’m feeling right now and how I’m LITERALLY USING THE BOOK I WROTE to get me through some difficult times!

The rise of thin is in on my scroll is absolutely messing with my head. It can piss off quite frankly. Never have I needed my rituals more! After narrating the audio book I left the studio feeling totally parched, but also inspired by my own journey. Is that arrogant? Do I care? I can’t imagine what it must feel like scrolling without having tools in place to reminding yourself of where true confidence and inner worth lies.

Constant reminders to myself that my body is worthy of love, that the shape of my body is the least interesting thing about myself, and that I don’t have to go on a crash diet in order to find social acceptance. We can be tricked into thinking body confidence is a final destination, it aint henny. It’s the journey. A bumpy, back and forth, rollercoaster as the world we live in consistently pulses out negative chat to us to make us hate ourselves, and in turn, sell us product.

ANYWAY BRENDA

I also feel really fucking groovy that my life is now rolling in a whole new place and at a totally different frequency. I’m doing wellness quotes at the moment for magazines - it feels amazing to have reached a place I manifested. This year, while it’s come with it’s troughs, is giving me peaks at the same time. I can’t believe that next weekend many of you will have your copy of the book, it will be sat partially read or being use as a coaster / door wedge in your remit. !! If you feel like hitting pre-order I would be SO grateful, every sale matters at this stage!

I fell deep into comparison traps during the past few months. Comparing myself to someone online who wrote a book with a similar title. I panicked, and deemed her more worthy than myself. Bali unknotted that, and I realised that we are two VERY different people, and you’ve heard the saying ‘your vibe attracts your tribe’ well our vibe is polar so our tribe will be too. There’s room for everyone to play big!

I’ve had unlearn a lot of toxic behaviours. For the majority of my career there’s been exterior forces pushing me to want more. During this launch I’ve had many moments where I’ve had to pause, and focus on what I do have over what I don’t have. Gratitude is playing a huge role in my life now, and I’ve had to learn to lower the volume on the inner triggers that no longer serve me.

As I said in a recent Instagram post, you don’t fake it til you make it, you become it. And I’m not faking this book launch or author life - I’m becoming this next phase of who I desire to be.

The Confidence Ritual launches June 5th 2025. I’m scared, I’m excited, I don’t have all the answers but I’m trying my best, who can ask anymore than that?

Make sure you sign up as I’ll be doing a LIVE virtual launch, there are limited spaces so make sure you get your name on the list.

Love Always XX Jules